| Location | Birmingham |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Other Disease |
| Date of Birth | 29/04/2004 |
| Date of Death | 29/04/2004 |
| Visitors | 5,544 since 30/07/2007 |
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I JUST WANT TO SAY A VERY BIG THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR EVERYONE WHO VISITS DAVID'S SITE AND LEAVES MESSAGES PICS ETC AND FOR ALL THE LOVELY PICS AND MESSAGES LEFT ON HIS ANGEL ANNIVERSARY YESTERDAY. ALTHOUGH I DONT LIGHT CANDLES FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S SITE EVERYDAY THEY ARE ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS. XX
David When I found out I was pregnant it was a bit of a shock for me and your dad. I did not know that I was pregnant. I had been suffering from terrible pains which I thought were the lead up to my period. I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. I made an appointment at the doctors and they sent me straightaway for a scan because of the pains was I having. The scan proved to be okay and they said I was 7/9 weeks pregnant. After telling everyone I was pregnant and them getting over the shock of it everything seemed to calm down. I went for my 12 week scan and everything was okay. I had the blood test for spina bifida and downs. I got home on the Good Friday from work and there was a letter from the hospital saying that I was high risk of you having spina bifida - 1 in 13. I could not ring anyone at the hospital as they had all gone home. I therefore had to wait until after the Easter break before I could ring anyone. When I spoke with someone at the hospital they told me not to worry and that everything would be okay but in my heart I knew that it would not.
It seemed like a long time before we were called back to the hospital for a scan but eventually the day came. They kept us waiting ages and your dad was pacing up and down. Eventually they called us through. The doctor told us the scan would last about 10 to 15 minutes and she would tell us the result when she had finished. I remember looking at the screen and thinking you looked perfect. When she finished the scan the doctor simply turned to me and said "Susan your baby has spina bifida and hydrocephalus". David those words will always stay with me. Me and your dad were then led into a small room were a midwife sat with us whilst the doctor had gone away to discuss the scan results with another doctor to confirm her diagnosis. The doctor eventually came back and told us the devastating news. I dont remember a lot because I was just crying, your dad was trying to be strong. The doctor asked what we wanted to do, did we want to carry on with the pregnancy or have a termination. David how could I answer that question - anyway your dad said he wanted me to have a termination he said he would not be able to cope with a disabled child and it would not be fair on you. They told me I had to make a decision within the next 2 weeks as the further pregnancy went on they would have to inject you in your heart to make it stop so that you wouldn't be born alive. I said I wanted to go home and think about matters. I cried all the way home and I cannot remember when I stopped.
David a decision had to be made but I did not want to make it. How could your dad understand, you were inside me kicking and growing everyday. Me and your dad went back to the hospital to see a Consultant to talk about the implications for you. We were told you would never be able to walk, you would have problems with your bowel and bladder, probably never be able to communicate with us - the doctor described in likel being at a cocktail party where you just make small talk, the hydrocepalus would need to be treated straightaway and you would have had to have had a shunt put into your head to drain the fluid away. The doctor advised that this may only need to be done once but it may be many times and this could also lead to you getting meningitus . David we went home and after long discussions came to the conclusion that I would have a termination. I want you to know David that this does not mean that you meant nothing and you were not wanted because you were wanted and still mean everything to me. You also had a left sided talipes (club foot) so again you would have had to have an operation on your foot.
Everybody told me I was making the right decision but how did they know.
I phoned the hospital and told them that I was going to have a termination.They gave me a date to come to the hospital because I would need to sign papers to consent to the same and also I had to take some pills to start the process off.Leading up to this I was hoping that your dad would change his mind and that the hospital would have given us more hope but that never came.There are days David when I do resent your dad and think if only you had suppored me more but I cannot turn the clock back and I know it was probably hard for your dad but he does not show his feelings.I also had to think about your sister and brother Sofia and Taz, they were 5 and 10 at the time.They were so happy when they knew that I was going to have another baby and very sad when they knew that you had died.I did not tell them I was having a termination as they were too young to understand what this meant.
On Thursday 29 April 2004 I went into hospital.
Fatima was the first midwife that helped start labour off but then she went off duty and Sarah and another midwife who was training helped deliver you. They were very young but so kind.
As soon as you were born they wrapped you up and put you into a cot. You dad cried. This was the first time that I had seen him show any emotion. David your dad did care but I think he dealt with things differently from me. Your dad comes from Iran a totally different culture. The midwives left us alone. Your dad asked if I wanted to see you. Of course I wanted to see you. He brought him over to me and I held you. David it only seems like yesterday when I held you and I will treausre the time that I had with you.
We were then taken to a prviate room where we stayed with you overnight. The midwives took you away for a short time where they wighed and measured you and took some poloroid pictures. You were so tiny. You weighed 10 ounces and you were 21.5cms long. You looked just like your dad. They tried to take your hand prints and feet but your hand prints did not turn out but your feet did. They gave us the photos and the tape measure they had meausred you with. The hospital also gave us a Birth Certficate. I persauded your dad to go home to get some things for me and also take pictures to show nanny.
We did not sleep that much that night and I kept looking into the crib thinking you would wake up and eveything would be okay. Leaving you there the next day was heartbreaking and I wanted to shout at the midwife please look after my David but she must have read my mind because she said "dont worry we will look after him".
We had a berevaement midwife called Debbie who helped arrange the funeral. You are buried with all the other babies in a communual grave. We took Sofia and Taz to you at the funeral home where we had placed in your coffin some photos of them, a letter I had written to you and a little elephant. As soon as they saw you they said "he is so lovely". I am glad I brought them to see you as your dad thought it was a bad idea.
The funeral was very hard seeing your little white coffin and it is a memory that will stay with me forever. Taz brought two of his cars to the funeral and when your coffin was lowered into the ground he threw them on top so that you would have something to play with in heaven. As we left you there your dad stayed behind and said something to you so I do know that he loves you but he has a different way of expressing his feelings.
Six to eight weeks after you passed David I found i was pregnant again. I have since given birth to your baby sister Olivia. When she is old enough I will tell her all about you and show her the things that I have for you in your memory box. I know that you are heaven with both your grandads and they will be looking after you.
You are and always will be in my heart forever and I hope you can forgive me one day.
My little man I miss you so much.
Love always
Mommy
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I KNOW THAT SOME PEOPLE WILL NOT AGREE WITH WHAT I DID AND TO ANYONE WHO HAS A CHILD WITH SPINA BIFIDA OR ANY DISABILITY I HOPE I HAVE NOT CAUSED OFFENCE. A LIFE IS VERY SPECIAL BUT AT THE TIME WHEN I WAS PREGNANT WITH DAVID THINGS WERE HAPPENING SO FAST I DO FEEL THAT I WAS NOT TOTALLY IN CONTROL.
♫ HAPPY BIRTHDAY PRECIOUS DAVID ♫♫
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♫ Happy Birthday To You ♫
♫ Happy Birthday Dear David ♫
♫ Happy Birthday To You ♫
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAVID
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Birthday Remembrance
Thinking of you on your birthday David
But that is nothing new
For no day dawns and no day ends
Without a thought of you.
We cannot send a birthday card,
Your hand we cannot touch,
But God will take our greetings
To the one we love so much.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAVID
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bigs hugs from me to you and your family
and friends that you miss you ever day but
in our hearts forever you will not be forgotin
all my love hugs and xxxx from me Sylvie
mommy of Samantha Belanger and
Granddaughter of Albert and Marie-Jeanne
Belanger take care bye for now.
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**ღ**ღ**ღ**ღ**ღ**ღ*THOSE WE LOVE **ღ**ღ**ღ**ღ
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ALL MY LOVE WISH YOU WHERE HEAR
WITH US TODAY BUT ALL OF YOU ARE
OUR HEARTS WHERE YOUR ALWAYS BE
BIG HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
THAT MISS YOU EVERDAY WE SEND OUR
LOVE TO YOU XXX AND HUGS TO ALL OF
YOU TAKE CARE BYE FOR NOW LOVE
FROM ME SYLVIE MOMMY OF SAMANTHA
BELANGER AND GRANDDAUGHTER OF
ALBERT AND MARIE-JEANNE BELANGER
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Today is my birthday...
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Today is my birthday
Celebrate my life with you
And remember the good times
Forget the bad.
Look up towards the sun
And catch every ray of light
Upon your cheek.
For I am there with you.
Today is my birthday,
Be happy for me.
My life was full.
I had the pleasure of love
And the joy of my family.
Do not be sad
Look up towards the stars
And catch each twinkle
In your heart.
For I am there with you
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Today is my birthday
My legacy is not wealth
Or mighty belongings,
My legacy is you and your life.
Spend it wisely and carefully,
Guard it always.
Do not be sad.
Feel the wind on your face
And in your hair
And know that I loved you
For I am there with you in your laughter
And in your hearts.
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Today is my birthday,
Learn to live again without me.
Take my strength with you
For you are not alone.
Do not be sad
Feel the rain on your face
Feel all life's treasures and
Know that you are alive!
At each step of the way
I will help you
For I am with you always
Until we meet again.
Today is my birthday...
unknown all my love
Sylvie
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I WISH I COULD UNDERSTAND........
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I REALLY WISH THAT I COULD UNDERSTAND
THIS WAS NOT THE WAY YOUR LIFE WAS PLANNED
I WILL NEVER KNOW WHY YOU HAD TO LEAVE ME WHY YOU HAD TO GO
MY HEART STILL CRIES OUT FOR YOU BECAUSE I LOVE YOU SO
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SOME TIMES IT JUST FEELS LIKE I AM STUCK IN TIME
I WISH I COULD HOLD YOU IN THESE EMPTY ARMS OF MINE
MY TEARS FALL FOR YOU BOTH NIGHT AND DAY
IT FEELS LIKE YOU WERE STILL WITH ME JUST YESTERDAY
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SOME DAYS I JUST DO NOT KNOW WHAT I SHOULD DO
MY HEART IS SO BROKEN AND I AM MISSING YOU
I TRY MY BEST TO REMEMBER YOUR SMILE
EVERYTHING YOU DID MADE LIFE SO WORTHWHILE
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LIVING WITHOUT YOU IS NO EASY TASK
I TRY EVERY DAY TO WEAR THIS MASK
THE ONE THAT PEOPLE OUTSIDE WANT TO SEE
THE MASK I HIDE BEHIDE UNTIL I JOIN YOU FOR ALL ETERNITY..........
copyright Rosalind Roberts 8/2/2011
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Tributes for Week Commencing 24th January
(’’ ♥’’) ---------(.)””(.)…..All
--’C(’’ ♥’’)-----( ’o’, )…….Angels
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FOR MONDAY
ღBest and most beautiful
ღThings in the world cannot
ღBe seen or even touched.
ღThey must be felt with the heart.
FOR TUESDAY
ღGone yet not forgotten,
ღAlthough we are apart,
ღYour spirit lives within me,
ღForever in my heart.
FOR WEDNESDAY
ღA gift for such a little while,
ღYour loss just seems so wrong,
ღYou should not have left before us,
ღIt’s with loved ones you belong.
FOR THURSDAY
ღPerhaps they are not
ღStars in the sky,
ღBut rather openings
ღWhere our loved ones shine down
ღTo let us know they are happy.
FOR FRIDAY
ღ The Watcher ღ
They always leaned to watch for us
Anxious if we were late,
In winter by the window,
In summer by the gate.
And though we mocked them tenderly
Who had such foolish care,
The long way home would seem more safe,
Because they waited there.
Their thoughts were all so full of us,
They never could forget,
And so I think that where they are
They must be watching yet.
Waiting ‘til we come home to them
Anxious if we are late
Watching from Heaven’s window
Leaning from Heaven’s gate.
FOR SATURDAY
ღ As We Look Back ღ
As we look back over time
We find ourselves wondering .....
Did we remember to thank you enough
For all you have done for us?
For all the times you were by our sides
To help and support us .....
To celebrate our successes
To understand our problems
And accept our defeats?
Or for teaching us by your example,
The value of hard work, good judgement,
Courage and integrity?
We wonder if we ever thanked you
For the sacrifices you made.
To let us have the very best?
And for the simple things
Like laughter, smiles and times we shared?
If we have forgotten to show our
Gratitude enough for all the things you did,
We're thanking you now.
And we are hoping you knew all along,
How much you meant to us.
FOR SUNDAY
ღ To Those Whom I Love and Those Who Love Me ღ
When I am gone, release me, let me go
I have so many things to see and do
You must not tie yourself to me with tears
Be happy that I have had so many years
I gave you my love, you can only guess
How much you gave me in happiness
I think you for the love each have shown
But now it is time I travelled on alone
So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust
It is only for a while that we must part
So bless the memories in your heart
I will not be far away, for life goes on
So if you need me, call and I will come
Though you can not see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you will hear
All of my love around you soft and clear
Then, when you must come this way alone
I will greet you with a smile and a
"Welcome Home"
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……………..Thoughts Today, Memories Forever
……………Angela Christopher’s Very Proud Mum
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I LIGHT THIS CANDLE IN YOUR NAME.......☆
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I HAVE LIT THIS CANDLE TO BURN IN MEMORY OF YOU
MAY IT GLOW THE WHOLE NIGHT THROUGH
I HOPE YOU CAN SEE THE GOLDEN FLAME
FOR THIS CANDLE IS LIT IN YOUR NAME
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MY HEART IS FULL OF TEARS OF PAIN
ONE DAY I SHALL SEE YOUR FACE AGAIN
BUT FOR NOW YOU REST FOR ETERNITY
THIS CANDLE IS LIT WITH LOVE FROM ME........
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copyright Rosalind Roberts 28/9/2010
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I love you too....
For mummy, you love me that is oh so clear, you have nothing to apologise to any one for, you conceived me in love, you carried me in love, you let me go in love....... for love of me and my siblings, for love of my dad, you know that he loves me too, though you don't often see that love........ I know he loves me, it was not easy for him either, and all I ever felt was the love you both have for me.... nothing else.......
Big Kiss and Hugs for you all..... I am loving you from afar, yet still I am close, look for me in the breeze that blows on your cheeks and moves your hair, look for me in the scent of the flowers, look for me in the shining of the sun and the glow of the moon...... I haven't really left, because you love me and remember me......... I love you too
David
Happy Birthday In Heaven - by Winnie Lovett
"Happy Birthday David"
It's sure to be the best one yet,
Though you left us here behind.
Did you think that we'd forget?
Your cake this year, will surely be,
A beauty to behold.
With the icing made of Silver,
And the candles made of Gold.
Yes, your birthday in Heaven,
Will be such a grand affair.
And I know you'll look so lovely,
With a halo in your hair.
The Angels will come from everywhere,
To sing your birthday song.
And I know they'll be so happy,
That you've joined, God's Happy Throng.
No I can't send a card this year,
Or give a gift so fine.
So I'll just send a special prayer,
To that wonderful Son of yours.
Copyright of Winnie Lovett
Hard Day
David today its 6 years since we found out that you were going to be a very poorly boy and a decision had to be made, one which I did not want to make and still regret making to this day. I hope you are having lots of fun with all your angel friends in the sun.
Love always and forever mommy
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